Wednesday, 23 September 2015

Dear Mid Twenties Ladies of the World


Your mid twenties is a weird time, I should know being 26, there are so many expectations put on you by society and the media. You should have a spouse/ home/ job/ fucking clue what you’re doing with your life, but you don’t have all or even one of those things. And y’know what? Thats ok! So here I am to quash all those stupid beliefs that by 25 you should have you shit together by not having any of my shit together yet starting my own magazine! So lets bust some myths hey?




By my mid twenties I will…

Have The Perfect Job
Its ok if you haven’t found your forever career or don’t do anything close to your dream job. You will and thats the important thing,but getting dream jobs takes experience that your 9 grand a year university degree didn’t give you. What is not ok is settling into a job you hate “cos its money”, if you have a valid reason to do an easy job then fair enough but never just settle, your dream job is out there. What is also not acceptable is working for free, know your worth, do your research and don’t agree to work for more than 2 weeks for free. They obviously hired you for a reason, so they should be willing to pay you for your expertise.

Own My Own Home
Here’s the thing, unless you have literally saved everything you had since you were 16 you will not own a house by the age of 25, especially in a big city. Renting is perfectly fine and you can still get a house thats perfect for you and whoever you live with. Remember whats perfect for you now might not be in 5 years so you don’t want to get tied into a mortgage. Most big cities have great houses and apartments to rent not far from the city centre that are reasonably priced.


Have Started A Family
Everyone you know is getting engaged/ married/ having babies, but why aren’t you? Simply put because it’s your choice when, if at all, you do any or all of those things. You have plenty of time to do those things and you shouldn’t feel pressured to because everyone else is. It is up to you if you get married in a year, 5, years or never, the same for everything else. It is yours and your partners decision not society. Similarly if you already have a family I salute you.

Have My Shit Together
Ok here’s a truth that we all learn in the end, nobody has their shit completely together in their twenties. And nobody has to, there are so many variables and ways that we are measured and ridiculed, yet we all carry on despite not being perfect or ‘complete’. We don’t have to act or be a certain way, but by doing what we do every day and surviving we are so much better than before.

See nobody has their shit together and that is perfectly ok. And remember its ok to drink overpriced wine and eat cake, you still have a metabolism.

Now go out there and make some magic, or not, its your choice.


Originally posted on femtellectual.com

5 comments :

  1. Love this! I don't think there's ever an age that we should have everything sorted out. I'm sure even when I'm 60 I'll be figuring something out, that's the fun of life I guess. I knew someone who planned to meet her husband at uni and be married and have kids by 25 - it didn't work out that way and she got really down about it. Live for the moment and take what life throws at you, I say!

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  2. I'm 23 and still coming to terms that things don't always go according to plan. The whole thing about "getting your shit together" is so daunting. I don't even know if it's worth all the stress and trouble. I feel like we're missing out on so much by stressing about something that's made to be a bigger deal than it actually is. I don't know for sure. I guess time will tell!
    Thanks for sharing!
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    Aria | Girl in a Whimsical Land

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  3. Although these are all things I should know I'm having an off day and this was the perfect time to have someone else remind me it's OK. Thank you! x
    Emily
    www.thebelljarblog.com

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  4. I'm happy with where I am, can't believe how much pressure we put on our 20s when we were young! :o xxx

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  5. I don't know if this will make you feel better of worse ... but I'm more than 10 years down the track from you ... and I don't have it all together yet! Funny thing is, I'm happy. I'm not finished striving and changing and adapting ... but that doesn't make me unhappy. I think it's being happy,, content, safe, gentle with yourself that will eventually lead you to where you want to be. :-)

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